I am in bombay with my niece and nephews . We are moving around in bombay and having fun . In this visit , I met couple of people from different walk of life . For example , I met guy travelling in local train to guy who has his own personal boat .
One of thing I realized that I always loved to met with different people and interact with them . In due course of life , I shifted to Hyderabad and somehow stopped doing so ( May be because I could not get opportunity / or could not make out opportunity :)) .
Generally , I have been a well known guy whether it is school or college or company with lot of friends . When i joined Microsoft , I was among the one of most popular guy in group for whole 2-3 years ( What a big deal ..That is what college hires popular for :) ) . I have a nice ability to mold my discussion according to the group and always avoid to aligned to a group ( Non Aligned movement follower :D ) . But down the line , I became concentrated to a fixed set of friends in my company / college. I am not saying whether it is good or bad .. I am just telling about an observation.
Why this happened ?
Is it because we became more and more rigid in our views as we grow on ? Is it because we became more serious about ourselves and our likings / disliking /status ? We dont want to come out our comfort zone or make imaginary class around ourselves and other and became a part of a particular class ?
Meeting new people always give you opportunity to see life in other point of views . It gives you opportunity to find out good and bad things . It makes life less serious . Best thing is it gives an opportunity to increase your friend circle and comfort zone.
Good thing is that I understood that I love to meet with different people ( preferably from different profession ) . I will try my best to meet at least 2 new people in a month . I think this is good start . If it works fine then i may continue it further .
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
Who defines our goals ?
24 Dec : I got call from my dad at 6 AM . On same day , I got a call from my college at 1 AM night . Topic was same :) but context was different .
Who defines our goal ? Is it society or self ?
Looking from the start .. In childhood , Parents defines us what is good or bad . They set up different goals for us . In school , Our goals are getting marks in unit tests or performing in some school activity . All driven by teachers or colleagues . In 12 th , getting into good college becomes the goal .. When we land up in some college then either getting into higher eduction or good job becomes goal .. After getting into job or completing higher education .. Life seems to have no goal for a while .. At that time , most of us decide to settle down :-) . And after getting married , there comes lot of life long goals which never finish .
Are not all these goals are society driven ?.. if they are not then how could maximum of people choose the same trend .. How can there be so commonality in this trend when there are so many different personality .. Sounds interesting ??
Only few people choose to take path less travelled . What makes them to do so ?
Who defines our goal ? Is it society or self ?
Looking from the start .. In childhood , Parents defines us what is good or bad . They set up different goals for us . In school , Our goals are getting marks in unit tests or performing in some school activity . All driven by teachers or colleagues . In 12 th , getting into good college becomes the goal .. When we land up in some college then either getting into higher eduction or good job becomes goal .. After getting into job or completing higher education .. Life seems to have no goal for a while .. At that time , most of us decide to settle down :-) . And after getting married , there comes lot of life long goals which never finish .
Are not all these goals are society driven ?.. if they are not then how could maximum of people choose the same trend .. How can there be so commonality in this trend when there are so many different personality .. Sounds interesting ??
Only few people choose to take path less travelled . What makes them to do so ?
Thursday, December 24, 2009
[International Bestseller]Problem Solving 101 : A Simple book for smart people
I read this book recently .. It is a nice book but I could not understand why it became a international best seller and big hit in corporate world .. Most of the techniques we already know .. Best thing i liked in this book is setting up priority technique and decision making technique . Best thing is that It took only 3 hours to complete whole book ( 110 pages) :)
Keeping my opinions apart .. Let me put summary of the book
This book was originally written for Japanese School children but it became so famous among adult audience that it became a international best seller. Author worked in McKinsey .
Book talks about different tool kit for problem solving . Books has lot of diagrams and flowcharts for explanation . Good part of book is that it can have wide range of readers starting from school goers to adults , helping all to solve their problems.
Book has three cases studies
1. A college band want to start performing in college and want to become big hit.
2. A middle class boy wants to buy Apple having limited money.
3. A Chinese girl wants to join Brazil school to become soccer player.
Starting a performance in college: Root cause Strategy
Step 1 : Diagnose the situation and identify the root cause of the problem
1A : List all the potential root causes of the problem
1B : Develop the hypothesis for the likely root causes
1C : Determine the analysis and inforamtions required to test the hypothesis
1D : Anlayze and identify the root cause
Step 2 : Develop the Solution
2A : Develop a wide variety of solutions to solve the problem
2B : Prioritize actions
2C : Develop an implementation plan
Soccer School : Pros and Cons Strategy
Spend less time worrying about things and more time thinking about actions you can take to get closer to your goals , then actually take actions
Ask for advice . You don't have to figure everything out on your own. Look for information to help you make the best decision in the given time
Challeng your own thinking processes and your conclusions.
Ask following quesions
What are the pros and cons ? Do i still have the fuill list ? Which options looks more attractive considering both the pros and cons ? Are the pros and cons really pros and cos ? What actions could I take to enhnace the pros and to minimize the cons
What are the specific criterion I should be using ? Do I have the right ones ? Am I weighting each criterion the right way?
Is my evaluation correct ? What information am i basing my evaluation on ? Is it accurate , up to date , and unbiased ? What actions could I take to improve teh attractiveness of my options ?
Buying Apple Laptop : Break down a big problem into smaller goal Strategy
Step 1 : Set a clear goal
Step 2 : Determine the gap between the goal and the current situation
Step 3 : Form a hypothesis about how to close the gap and achieve the goal
3A List as many options and ideas as possible
3B Select the best ideas as the hypothesis
Step 4 : Check the hypothesis . Go back to step 3 if the hypothesis is disproved
4A : Determine the analyses and information required to test the hypothesis
4B : Analyze and develop action plan
Keeping my opinions apart .. Let me put summary of the book
This book was originally written for Japanese School children but it became so famous among adult audience that it became a international best seller. Author worked in McKinsey .
Book talks about different tool kit for problem solving . Books has lot of diagrams and flowcharts for explanation . Good part of book is that it can have wide range of readers starting from school goers to adults , helping all to solve their problems.
Book has three cases studies
1. A college band want to start performing in college and want to become big hit.
2. A middle class boy wants to buy Apple having limited money.
3. A Chinese girl wants to join Brazil school to become soccer player.
Starting a performance in college: Root cause Strategy
Step 1 : Diagnose the situation and identify the root cause of the problem
1A : List all the potential root causes of the problem
1B : Develop the hypothesis for the likely root causes
1C : Determine the analysis and inforamtions required to test the hypothesis
1D : Anlayze and identify the root cause
Step 2 : Develop the Solution
2A : Develop a wide variety of solutions to solve the problem
2B : Prioritize actions
2C : Develop an implementation plan
Soccer School : Pros and Cons Strategy
Spend less time worrying about things and more time thinking about actions you can take to get closer to your goals , then actually take actions
Ask for advice . You don't have to figure everything out on your own. Look for information to help you make the best decision in the given time
Challeng your own thinking processes and your conclusions.
Ask following quesions
What are the pros and cons ? Do i still have the fuill list ? Which options looks more attractive considering both the pros and cons ? Are the pros and cons really pros and cos ? What actions could I take to enhnace the pros and to minimize the cons
What are the specific criterion I should be using ? Do I have the right ones ? Am I weighting each criterion the right way?
Is my evaluation correct ? What information am i basing my evaluation on ? Is it accurate , up to date , and unbiased ? What actions could I take to improve teh attractiveness of my options ?
Buying Apple Laptop : Break down a big problem into smaller goal Strategy
Step 1 : Set a clear goal
Step 2 : Determine the gap between the goal and the current situation
Step 3 : Form a hypothesis about how to close the gap and achieve the goal
3A List as many options and ideas as possible
3B Select the best ideas as the hypothesis
Step 4 : Check the hypothesis . Go back to step 3 if the hypothesis is disproved
4A : Determine the analyses and information required to test the hypothesis
4B : Analyze and develop action plan
Lets play a little game
Make a guess of your age when you will be no more ( Yuk !! Are we playing a game :-) ?)
Make a line with the length proportional to above age. Now mark a point in the line based on your current age . Just see :-)
When i did it , i saw a big % of life is gone .. Only small % is left between current and old age ....
All my assumption of being immortal went away ... I never thought that i will pass away one day and that one day is not very far away ...:-)
Many things came to my mind like Life is so short ... Lot of things to be done .. Also , It is so sad I have not contributed to society .. Another thing came to my mind is that why to worry on small and small things when so less time is left.... What matters most is present ...
Make a line with the length proportional to above age. Now mark a point in the line based on your current age . Just see :-)
When i did it , i saw a big % of life is gone .. Only small % is left between current and old age ....
All my assumption of being immortal went away ... I never thought that i will pass away one day and that one day is not very far away ...:-)
Many things came to my mind like Life is so short ... Lot of things to be done .. Also , It is so sad I have not contributed to society .. Another thing came to my mind is that why to worry on small and small things when so less time is left.... What matters most is present ...
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Commitments
Commitments are very important ... Couple of times we AVOID to take up commitments .. What could be the reasons for not picking up the commitments ... I think reasons should more and less following :-
1. Fear of loosing the freedom : We think if we stick to some commitments then we have to stick up with some rule books , need to become more disciplined and become questionable . This will take away freedom
2. Fear of failure : People think that picking more commitments raised the risk of more failure .
3. Unaware of strengths and weakness : Unaware of our strength and weakness makes us resistant to pick up new commitments.
But I think , to get rid of all above points , one should pick up commitments :-) . Seriously :-) . Let me put my point..
1. Freedom : I believe more the commitments we pick up , more important role we have in society which makes us more powerful and options in hand. Mostly , All powerful people are have more freedom quotient ...
2. Failure : Most of times , commitment is not so difficult as we initially thought of .. We are fear of starting ( failing) ...In case , we pick up a commitment and even we got failed ... We will get chance to know our shortcomings and this will give more strength and experience . All this add ons will certainly help in making decisions for new commitments to successfully handle them.
3. Strengths and Weakness : Commitments give us hand on experience to know our strengths and weakness.
So , Very fear that prevent us to pick up commitments , can only be get rid of by picking more commitments !!
1. Fear of loosing the freedom : We think if we stick to some commitments then we have to stick up with some rule books , need to become more disciplined and become questionable . This will take away freedom
2. Fear of failure : People think that picking more commitments raised the risk of more failure .
3. Unaware of strengths and weakness : Unaware of our strength and weakness makes us resistant to pick up new commitments.
But I think , to get rid of all above points , one should pick up commitments :-) . Seriously :-) . Let me put my point..
1. Freedom : I believe more the commitments we pick up , more important role we have in society which makes us more powerful and options in hand. Mostly , All powerful people are have more freedom quotient ...
2. Failure : Most of times , commitment is not so difficult as we initially thought of .. We are fear of starting ( failing) ...In case , we pick up a commitment and even we got failed ... We will get chance to know our shortcomings and this will give more strength and experience . All this add ons will certainly help in making decisions for new commitments to successfully handle them.
3. Strengths and Weakness : Commitments give us hand on experience to know our strengths and weakness.
So , Very fear that prevent us to pick up commitments , can only be get rid of by picking more commitments !!
Jo Beet gayi so baat gayi-Harivansh Rai Bachchan
One of my friend left the company. He is one of the super talented guy I have met . Currently , he landed up in a company which is not so great . He was in very low confidence condition. He came to city and met old gang. This guy became so emotional to meet old folks . He knew we will not met more often , we will not talk more often . His all emotions came out when he got to know one of the person in gang is leaving India. I never saw him so low ……so helpless……... so restless …….
I reminded a poem , read in school, which i quoted that time. This is lovely poem by Harivansh Rai Bachan ..
जीवन में एक सितारा था
माना वह बेहद प्यारा था
वह डूब गया तो डूब गया
अंबर के आंगन को देखो
कितने इसके तारे टूटे
कितने इसके प्यारे छूटे
जो छूट गए फ़िर कहाँ मिले
पर बोलो टूटे तारों पर
कब अंबर शोक मनाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
जीवन में वह था एक कुसुम
थे उस पर नित्य निछावर तुम
वह सूख गया तो सूख गया
मधुबन की छाती को देखो
सूखी कितनी इसकी कलियाँ
मुरझाईं कितनी वल्लरियाँ
जो मुरझाईं फ़िर कहाँ खिलीं
पर बोलो सूखे फूलों पर
कब मधुबन शोर मचाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
जीवन में मधु का प्याला था
तुमने तन मन दे डाला था
वह टूट गया तो टूट गया
मदिरालय का आंगन देखो
कितने प्याले हिल जाते हैं
गिर मिट्टी में मिल जाते हैं
जो गिरते हैं कब उठते हैं
पर बोलो टूटे प्यालों पर
कब मदिरालय पछताता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
मृदु मिट्टी के बने हुए हैं
मधु घट फूटा ही करते हैं
लघु जीवन ले कर आए हैं
प्याले टूटा ही करते हैं
फ़िर भी मदिरालय के अन्दर
मधु के घट हैं,मधु प्याले हैं
जो मादकता के मारे हैं
वे मधु लूटा ही करते हैं
वह कच्चा पीने वाला है
जिसकी ममता घट प्यालों पर
जो सच्चे मधु से जला हुआ
कब रोता है चिल्लाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
- हरिवंशराय बच्चन
I reminded a poem , read in school, which i quoted that time. This is lovely poem by Harivansh Rai Bachan ..
जीवन में एक सितारा था
माना वह बेहद प्यारा था
वह डूब गया तो डूब गया
अंबर के आंगन को देखो
कितने इसके तारे टूटे
कितने इसके प्यारे छूटे
जो छूट गए फ़िर कहाँ मिले
पर बोलो टूटे तारों पर
कब अंबर शोक मनाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
जीवन में वह था एक कुसुम
थे उस पर नित्य निछावर तुम
वह सूख गया तो सूख गया
मधुबन की छाती को देखो
सूखी कितनी इसकी कलियाँ
मुरझाईं कितनी वल्लरियाँ
जो मुरझाईं फ़िर कहाँ खिलीं
पर बोलो सूखे फूलों पर
कब मधुबन शोर मचाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
जीवन में मधु का प्याला था
तुमने तन मन दे डाला था
वह टूट गया तो टूट गया
मदिरालय का आंगन देखो
कितने प्याले हिल जाते हैं
गिर मिट्टी में मिल जाते हैं
जो गिरते हैं कब उठते हैं
पर बोलो टूटे प्यालों पर
कब मदिरालय पछताता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
मृदु मिट्टी के बने हुए हैं
मधु घट फूटा ही करते हैं
लघु जीवन ले कर आए हैं
प्याले टूटा ही करते हैं
फ़िर भी मदिरालय के अन्दर
मधु के घट हैं,मधु प्याले हैं
जो मादकता के मारे हैं
वे मधु लूटा ही करते हैं
वह कच्चा पीने वाला है
जिसकी ममता घट प्यालों पर
जो सच्चे मधु से जला हुआ
कब रोता है चिल्लाता है
जो बीत गई सो बात गई
- हरिवंशराय बच्चन
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Pillars of strong relationship
There are so variety of relationships like couple relationship , parents - children relationship , office relationship , lovers relationships , friends relationship etc ..
All relationships are different in some way .. But there should be commonality also
Just thinking what should be the common pillars of strong relationship which are applicable for all ..
1. Give and Take : Every strong relationship is based on give and take . This gave and take can be money / emotions / time / hope / security / pleasures etc .. Whenever , there is some imbalance of give and take whole boat of relationship starts shaking ... So keep convection current of give and take ON for safe sailing :-)
2. Common Goal : Strong relationship go for a common goal . For couple , this common goal could be making a flat or working for child's future .. so for love birds common goal could be settle down .. This goals could vary people to people but there should be a BIG goal common for all parties involved in relationship . It is worth effort to search for common big goal if it is not there. Big common goal acts as cement to fight against any earth quakes .
3. Commitment : Commitment is key for strong relationship . Commitment should not be dropped off just by mood swings :-) ... What if some family's bread earner says he would not go for work as no mood ... Make out the commitment and stick to it.
4. Space : Give some space to all parties . Your happiness and sorrowness should not be directly related to other people and don't EXPECT vice versa also . Be less possessive....Show respect to person and it views ..
There could be many more ... But I could only find these at this time :)
So whenever , any one of the pillar start shaking then it either action time or run time ... But don't waste time just sitting , doing nothing and assuming things will be fine :-) Time never comes back.. :-)
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